When everyday issue become this tug-of-war process between couples, marriage isn’t quite fun anymore. Once the new has worn off and the marriage becomes a bit familiar, two people often find themselves struggling with conflict that can otherwise be resolved amicably. Today we are going to discuss a few ways successful couples resolve conflict.
Keep it Simple
It’s easier to make a mountain out of a mole hill when you are full of emotion. Whenever you or your partner is feeling uneasy about a situation, try to keep it simple. State your concern in as few words as possible checking your emotions at the door. When you two work to resolve conflict its best that the emotions are left aside. State your concern in as few words as possible while only stating facts, versus pointing fingers or getting ridiculous emotional about the topic.
Appreciate your Differences
Think about the day you fell in love with your spouse, you loved them for who they were and while time allows each person to grow, this person is your partner not your enemy. The reason you fell in love and united under marriage was partially because you appreciated each other’s differences and accepted your partner for who they are. When you learn to get back to that appreciation feeling, resolving conflict happens easier. Appreciating your differences is more about respecting your partner than anything else.
Compromise with Each Other
Let’s face it, when conflict arrives there’s no one solution fits all answer. Learn to compromise with each other as a means to move forward, still in love and ready to live life together. Having the ability to compromise with each other will lead you forward in a successful marriage and allow each of you to feel as if your feelings were understood. While this may be difficult to do, try your hardest because love will prevail when you both work to resolve conflict by meeting in the middle.
This Isn’t Worth a Battle
Last, but certainly not least, try to remember that this current situation that has you all ruffled up isn’t worth ripping a hole in your marriage. Successful couples who learn conflict resolution by keeping it simple, appreciating each other’s differences and using compromise as a means to move forward tend to have longer lasting marriages together. There is no reason to let a moment destroy the years you have worked to build this marriage.
About the Author: Brandy Ellen is a Positive Lifestyle Blogger born and raised in New Hampshire, USA. Brandy is a successful work from home mom of three who enjoys inspiring others to live life fully.
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